Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked with anyone else.

For me, that someday has been everyday of the past year and one month.  I’m really glad that I didn’t settle for anything, or anyone less than that perfect fit.  Actually, being a perfect fit puts too much pressure, and this relationship has never been that difficult.  Which teaches me another thing, that when it comes to the right person, everything should become easy.  In effect, the perfect fit becomes the easy fit.

Well, to think that this special thing progressed only when I decided not to actively look for love.  Indeed, looking for love is the antithesis of finding love.  Our desire to fill that void negates the very state of completeness that we are trying to attract.  I know, it’s a conundrum.

That’s the secret to a happy life, I guess.  In most aspects, I too am still trying to learn it.  To feel the feelings of achieving what we want to have, and just let go of the chase, that takes a lot of muscle memory.  For most of us, that is against our nature.  So we chase after our dreams and end up riding that unending wheel of discontent.

Learning to exist in the present, and feeling the emotions of being complete, as if our dreams have already been fulfilled, is the sure way to attract and achieve those dreams.  The universe itself will move things and circumstances into our favor.

All that we are is the result of what we have thought. If a man speaks or acts with an evil thought, pain follows him. If a man speaks or acts with a pure thought, happiness follows him, like a shadow that never leaves him. - Buddha

Just something to think about before turning in for the night.  We become what we focus on.

May everyone think happy thoughts

If you are serious about your goals, drop the conditions. Go directly to your goal. Be your goal! Conditions often disguise strategies for escaping accountability. Why not just take charge and create the experience you are looking for? - Eric Allenbaugh

I’ve met quite a few people who take too much time enumerating their hindrances and shortcomings, that they entirely miss the bus… if you know what I mean. Well, this message is not for them, since I also made it a point not to try to sway them to a more positive point of view. It’s so fruitless that it will just ruin our day hehe

This is for all of us, positive thinkers! Good afternoon!!!

The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning. - Mitch Albom

Sometimes you find yourself at an impasse.  You are left with questions like What do I do next? or What is the meaning of my life? and there are no concrete answers.  I find myself in such a predicament.

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I love you; not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. - Roy Croft

This is one of those wala-lang-posts because I’m just feeling it.  The funny thing about love is that great distance never diminishes its meaning.  Sometimes it lies in silence, but it’s there.  If it’s with the right person, that is.

Throughout our lives we deal with heartaches, and we ask the universe in all our defeated voice one question - Why?  When love finds you, when you’re ready to receive it, there you’ll find the reason why.  Or it finds you

Just because it’s true doesn’t make it nice, because some truths are better left unsaid, especially if it’s something that would crush someone’s self-esteem.  Sometimes being a good human being means knowing when to not say things…

I heard that from the Tyra show and the episode was about discrimination towards plus-size people.  I related to it, not that I was actually discriminated for my size.  No, I think Filipinos are too nice for that.  Those kinds of things come to me in the form of encouragement… annoyingly happens when I’m hanging on to dear life spelunking, or climbing a mountain (I’m talking literally here, which explains the annoying part).

(Me at a friend’s wedding in 2006)

I’m talking more about my self-image, and how a poor sense of self-image led me to be very big.  It took a realization to building a sense of appreciation to myself to acknowledge that I, like every living thing God created, am beautiful.

(Me now)

Since then I have decided to embrace life.  I started to live a more active life.  Even other people noticed that I became a happier person, overall.  That’s because I am.

I guess what I’m saying is that at the end of the day it’s not about the calories, fat content, and beauty regimen.  It’s about realizing that the inward - yourself - and the outward - everyone and everything else - are all beautiful creations.

Hope everyone’s Holy Week is as meaningful…

It’s great to feel love, but to feel it from such an amazing person is just priceless. 

I Just Call You Mine by Martina Mcbride

I pinch myself sometimes to make sure I’m not in a dream, that’s how it seems
I close my eyes and breathe in the sweetest moments I’ve ever known
It feels like home and here I am I want to be your everything
There you are turning winter into spring

And everyone that sees you, always want’s to know you
And everyone that knows you, always has a smile
You’re standing ovation after years of waiting, for a chance to finally shine
Everyone calls you amazing, yeah, I just call you mine

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One of the retweets led me to The Dew View’s article - 50 Things successful People Have in Common

• They look for and find opportunities where others see nothing.
• They find a lesson while others only see a problem.
• They are solution focused.
• They consciously and methodically create their own success, while others hope success will find them.
• They are fearful like everyone else, but they are not controlled or limited by fear.
• They ask the right questions – the ones which put them in a productive, creative, positive mindset and emotional state.
• They rarely complain (waste of energy). All complaining does is put the complainer in a negative and unproductive state.
• They don’t blame (what’s the point?). They take complete responsibility for their actions and outcomes (or lack thereof).
• While they are not necessarily more talented than the majority, they always find a way to maximize their potential. They get more out of themselves. They use what they have more effectively.
• They are busy, productive and proactive. While most are laying on the couch, planning, over-thinking, sitting on their hands and generally going around in circles, they are out there getting the job done.

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For most, doing that long distance thing with a partner is tough.

It’s a new day, got a clean slate
Gonna get up, fill my coffee cup
Hit the interstate, gonna drive all day back to you

It’s been fifteen and a half days
I can’t take this long distance
Something’s missing in every moment without you

But all my troubles fade
Everything falls into place

Where you and I meet, baby that’s the sweetspot
Where you and I meet, baby that’s the sweetspot
When you hold me in your arms there’s nowhere else I wanna be
Yeah, where you and I meet, baby that’s the sweetspot

But you know, in making the decision to go into a long-distance relationship, I just made sure that it was OK with me.  Listening to your heart is the key.  Before going into it, make sure that you will be alright with it.  Reflect on it.  Only then should you say yes to it.

In my case that’s what I did.  I decided that with this person, it was going to be alright.  There was enough love between the two of us that distance was not going to be a big factor.  Reflecting on it, I knew that with this person, it was going to be easy.

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… And just like that, I saw this on my mail today

Never be passive. When you’re simply reactive to situations, you allow others and events to set the agenda for your life. 

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There are times in your life that you feel that people are gaining ground from you, by stepping on you.  There are times that you just can’t help but feel that other people have deprived something from you.  We are all humans, thereby we have that excuse to rant when we feel that we have been wronged.  I guess that’s the way our psyche has been trained by society itself - the rat race.

But I say to everyone, this is not the best way to abundance.  The best way to our own betterment is to acknowledge how much we have in our life rather that how much we don’t have.  In my recent realizations, I found that the best way to acknowledge abundance is to not only think of how much we have, but also to think of how much more we can give to others.  You see, if we just say that we wait for the surplus in our possessions for us to start giving, then that’s what our lives become - the waiting.  If we give now, even with what little we have, then our lives will start to become what we do - to be an overflowing vessel of God’s graces.

Whatever you think the world is withholding from you, you are withholding from the world. Deep down inside you think you are small and that you have nothing to give. And if you don’t give, you don’t receive. - Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth

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Wow!  This is still giving me goosebumps

I subscribe to Bo Sanchez’s God Whispers.  This evening I opened my home computer and read this

January 26, 2010

Dear Angelo,

Adventure. Is that what your life is about now? That’s my desire for you.
To climb hills. To run in the rain. To serve others. To laugh with friends…

Stretch, Angelo. When you feel too comfortable, check your
dreams. It may be time for another adventure.

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What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sometimes we are limited by our own past.  Hardships and traumatic experiences cause a weaker or a jaded version of ourselves in the present that we in turn fail to move on.  We fail to succeed in the present because of the ghosts of our past.

On the other hand, sometimes what hinders our success is the seemingly insurmountable path that is laid before us.  We feel discouraged just looking at the mountain we have to climb.

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Treating today as “Me” day, I got to thinking about the past few weeks that have gone by.  I think I now know why I’ve been feeling a bit discontented and frustrated about my work.  I mean, sure there are lots of setbacks in my job and the firm, but these things didn’t always get to me.  Well, before I used to obsess about my work a lot but that feeling went away and I was content for a time.  Now that feeling is back.

Then it hit me.  For the past few months, I have not been doing anything else but work, or be at work.  On my free days, I just stay home or go to the local mall.  I have not traveled or attended any productive activity.  If I was a river I would be this steady force, focused on one path.  I know that I’m the type of person who needs to be well-rounded.  I’m a person who needs to be multitasking different productive activities, else I get burnt out.  I just forgot about these thing, I guess.

A few days ago I have been toying with the idea of getting into business.  Not the passive income yielding stuff, a more of a semi-active endeavor.  I am actually setting this up with a business partner, a relative.  So, that’s going to be exciting.  I’m excited, enthusiastic and optimistic about this.  This is going to push through.

It didn’t end there…

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Three years ago from today, my sister died.  This ordeal in our lives left us financially, emotionally and spiritually devastated for a time.  We had no way of knowing that we would suffer another loss so soon.  At that time we were still licking our wounds from the loss of our mother.

This time around, I had to do the arrangements without her.  You see, when my Mother passed away, I also had to make the arrangements, but my sister was still there at the sidelines.  I knew that I had to be the strongest, but still I had extra wind under my sails.  With my sister passing, it was different.  One sibling was missing.

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